Infatuation

There is an old and evergreen Nepali lok song and many of them know about it.The song is "Nakkali Lai Bhagai Lagyo Jhilke Le".It is sung by veteran singer Saroj Gopal.This song is all about infatuation.Many guys do like a girl but one of the guy takes her at the end.The song is so beautiful,be it it's music,Lyrics,Vocal,mixing,instruments used in it,everything is really really good. In fact two of it's part of lyrics has touched me a lot.And it is"Timi Hami Bhanesi,Hurukkai Tini Hunthin Re.Dui Char Din Katai Gaye Samjhi Samjhi Runthin Re".
Why i am talking about this part is that there used to be a girl,whom i have thought as a friend initially.We used to chitchat a lot. In fact we have been like a best friend.I didn't knew she liked me.For some days i didn't went to the college and after few days i came to knew from my close friend that she felt lonely in the class and cried secretly in her home.Though there were many other guys who they used to like her.
And the next part of lyrics is"Na Ta Kahile Bheteko,Na Ta Kahile Dekheko,Tye Mori Nakkali Lai Mohani Lagai Diyo Re".This part also has some connection with my original life.Once few years back i used to talk with a girl over phone.We exchanged our phone number while chatting and took our relation to the higher level.Though it's not so so higher but just the one step further after chat.She used to call me a lot and i used to text her.For several months we talked over phone.At that time i have had only created the imagination about her.we were talking like boyfriend and girlfriend.However the most interesting and amazing part was we never met.We used to say someday soon we'll meet but that day didn't came.Slowly i started neglecting her text and phone calls as i thought we are not meant for each other.Though i respect her and also her voice was beautiful.
Infact these days people are starting to romance online.Many youths use social networking sites and this has somehow brought negative impact on youths by sending friend request to the girl having beautiful profile pictures which can also be fake ones.And after they confirm the friend request then the flirting part starts from both sides.If the Girl is good then she knows the intention of the boy and then goes offline or block him.
Infatuation starts from the Very beginning.It can be by looking to her beautiful face,eyes, hair,complexion or it can be by the deep voice of a boy or by his fashion and styles.
Sometimes infatuation can leads us in a big trouble.It can cause disputes between two good friends.Many youths be it boys or girls gets infatuated to each other and says they love each other. In fact in a real sense which is not.They go beyond extremes and takes a wrong decision by indulging in bad and illegal things and end up life regretting it.
So,by conducting seminars,Plays,Films or counselling may help youths to differentiate between love and infatuation.Open communication between parents,teachers,friends,brother,sister has to be encouraged and the question that these youth arise should be answered by those whom they have asked.Also without any hesitation they should reply.By doing so it'll help youths to take their life to the better path.
In last, infatutation  itself is the begging of starting to love.
-Moin Uddin,Ghattekulo,Kathmandu