Do you have friends?

Hey,I've a question to ask you...Humm....Don't panic,it's not so hard as what you may be thinking. OK,Do you have friends?Humm...you are nodding there right? So, how many friends do you have? One?Two?Ten?Thirty?Fifty?two hundreds? I think you're busy counting now.
If we look it in our Facebook account than there we may feel blessed with many friends.Some of you may have 200 friends,some may have 500 friends and some even with 4000 friends,isn't it?Wow,than congratulation....But are they wroth it?Do you know them personally? or just you're somewhat famous in social networking sites or your profile picture seems cool and attractive,so they may have likened it and sent you with a friend request and you may then have accepted it?It's your personal choice whether to add and accept their friend request proposal.
Social networking sites may have helped you to be connected with known unknown friends.But think seriously,DO you actually have a real friend,who seriously is there with you in your happiness,in you sorrow,in you good moments and in your bad times?DO you have such friends who doesn't expect much with you rather than is there with you to lend his/her shoulder when you are in sad times,where you can share your any feelings without
any hesitation.Is there any friend where you can cry and speak loud or say anything that your heart thinks and later says you,you are right,I'll always be there by your side,whether you'll be like this forever or  change from what you are now.
Seems like now you're thinking it critically.We all want good friends and we also want our good friend circle's horizon get elongated.But sadly we even do not have ten friends such what I've mentioned above.There we may have 1000 friends in Face-book but in real sense we actually may not have any such friends where we can share our feelings without any hesitation.If you've any one or two or three,then you're lucky.
Now you may be asking,then how can we've such good friends,where can they be found?Who else are going to be my friend?
It's so simple,There are four things that you need to follow.If you do practice it in your daily life than you'll be happy by your own-self and with the friends you'll be with.
The first one is friendliness.You got to be friendly with everyone.If you do not try to be their friends than how'll they be your friends.If you'll expect it that,than you'll again be sad.so,the first thing is to start the move and try to be friendly with everyone.
The second thing is kindness.If you practice kindness than it'll help you a lot in being happy and to make a good and long-lasting friend.Kindness is something related to patience.For example,if someone says you something,which actually is making or irritating you but you'll say good thing for those in return or do not react than it is a sign of kindness.Forgive them for the deeds they did with you.
The third important thing is happiness.While talking to any known or unknown friends,you got to be happy every-other time.You should have at-least a smile on your face.It has a magic which can ultimately make you close with many people and even your smile can make someone else day.So, never frown,be happy and talk with them.they'll like you and also they'll want to be your friend and in the long run you'll retain them.
The fourth and last one is a vague thing and the most important ones,do not expect anything in return.We humans are always hopeful and will always expect something in return from others.For example,your friend will say you that he'll call you in the evening,eventually due to some busy schedule he forgets to call you but you'll expect his call for whole night and the next morning,you'll meet him and say all those things,which actually should not have said,but it'll be useless as it have done its work,which killed your friendship.
So,be friendly,do practice kindness,be happy and after all that do not expect anything in return,which is the best mantra to retain friends for a long time.
Be gentle,Be direct and say only good things and positive thing to retain good friends.Never lie to your friend or backbite in-front of others,this will ultimately make them sad and you'll lose your friend.

-Moin Uddin,Ghattekulo,Kathmandu