Poverty, The prime cause for talent drain

I've reads lots of interviews, personality books, watched lots of commencement speeches, interviews of the movie star, businessmen, singers and also of book authors, prostitutes, beggars, handicapped people and so on. Do you know what's their common saying is " I just want to come out from the poverty and don't want to live the life that I've lived, for these reason I am working day and night to change my world".Poverty and the lack of money are the prime hindrances for most of the talented people to come out and shine like stars. No-matter people give 2nd priority to it in their saying but it's a prime reason for talents to go in vain :(.....

Mr. Perfectionist?

                

I've already wasted my valuable time and life into doing the things perfectly. I work day and night to do a work sincerely to complete it in time. In-fact I try to finish before deadline and this has been a problem for me. There are some of my friends who are happy and are leading their life successful and are not afraid that if their work crosses deadline. Indeed they are the ones living a joyful life.

                Fear, rejection, disapproval are the elements that drives me to do a better work but this haunts me a lot and I am already into frustration. I want all the things to be perfect. I know there are many like me who have similar problem.

                Are we trying to be perfectionist? If then what is perfectionism?

                Perfectionist aspires to be top achievers and do not allow themselves to make even a single mistake. They are always on the alert for imperfections and weaknesses in themselves and others. Perfectionism is not the same as striving for excellence. People who pursue excellence in a healthy way take genuine pleasure in working to meet high standards. Perfectionists are motivated by self doubt and fear of disapproval, ridicule and rejection. The high producer has drive, while perfectionist is driven.

                I see others and get disappointed. The reason behind this is they take life and work for granted and goes beyond rules and regulation, perhaps they do anything what they feel like, which I think is incorrect but I am mistaken by my own definition. I should take life lightly like them as every other people do mistake and are given a chance to correct it but again my conscience doesn’t let me accept this as, if given a responsibility than we must do that work sincerely and wholeheartedly.

                I've gone through lot of problem in trying to be Mr. Perfectionist. My self esteem has always been low as I fear that I would be rejected if I do not perform perfectly. I almost have gone through depression. Most of the time, I lack motivation. I'd an obsessive behavior like focusing on details and rules. I've an eating disorder. And most importantly the relations with my family and friends have gone sour. They feel like I've a problem and I feel like they've a problem and ultimately I end up hurting people without meaning to hurt them.

                I’ve realized it sooner and have stated using a different methodology that high achiever would practice. They accept that making mistakes and risking failure are part of the achievement process and part of being human. There are some benefits of being high achiever. They set standards that are high but achievable, enjoy the process, not just the outcome, they recover from disappointment quickly, they view mistakes as opportunities for growth and learn.

                Once you are aware of the ways by which you expect yourself to be perfect, you can start to change your behavior. Remember one thing that there isn't anything that is perfect as everything has its perfect as well as imperfect portions. Enjoy life. :)

               

(Moin Uddin maintains interest in all things positive in life and loves to write about them, He is from Ghattekulo, Kathmandu and can be reached at moinuddin_200000@yahoo.com or 9841689437)

I won't stop writing

I won't stop writing. As I need to inspire and motivate people as well as I need to help myself from coming out of fear and anxiety. It only takes an inch to be a winner or a looser.just a mere milliseconds can change your world from what you are now. Let's believe in our dreams and let that dreams get transformed into beautiful thing which can help and make wonders in millions of people lives.I a

m born to inspire people and my name MOIN means to help people and bind them to do a great work and am simply doing that. let's change the world. i know you are like me who want positive change.so let's try at-least from now and the dreams that we saw will come alive in days to come.it may take 6 months or 1 year or 20 years from now but, now; we need to implant and work....:)

Perfectionism

In-order to do every work perfectly.i have hurt myself a lot than any other can just think of.I always believed in perfect work to be done in right time. I've always feared a lot that, what will it be if i won't be able to do a work in a time.I always try my best to finish my work earlier than a deadline. on the other hand i see my friends who are happy also don't fear if they cross their deadline. I was living a life full of anxiety and fear and always i lowered my voice in front of my seniors though I didn't do any mistakes but deep inside i fear that i might lose my job. i always pleased others and there i was wrong. i lived a wrong life.trusted wrong people and believed in them thinking they are perfect but no.Now i am not going to say any more sorry or any other thank you unless they really do something great work. I will overcome my fear and live a wonderful life that my god has given me. But yes, i must say that those who have truly helped me in my lil journey,thank you,thank you so much for everything. However now i m not going to apologize or lower my voice or appreciate fake peoples that I've encountered in my life. i will change..and 3 cheers for me myself for accepting to be changed..hip hip hurray..hip hip hurray...hip hip hurray. :)



(Moin Uddin maintains interest in all things positive in life and loves to write about them, He is from Ghattekulo, Kathmandu and can be reached at moinuddin_200000@yahoo.com or 9841689437)

love, humm??

Once upon a time there were two true lovers. They loved each other very much. The boy name was Joy and the girl name was Daphne. One day a girl requested to her boyfriend to bring a red rose for her. She told" I'll dance with you, if only you’ll bring me a red rose. I'll wear it in tomorrow’s party. But the boy said, there are no any red rose in my garden. His eyes were filled with tears.
However she didn’t understood what was boy saying. She said " anyhow you have to bring red rose otherwise I will dance with other rich boys. Then she stood up and went away. The boy became sad and started to cry. The entire thing which was happening was seen by the bird, Nightingale. A little nightingale heard boy from her old tree and she told they are the true lovers. Nightingale said “I’ve heard and sang songs about true lover night after night but I’ve never seen a true lover."
There will be a dance at a palace tomorrow said the boy." The prince will be there and my love will be there too. If I bring her a red rose then she will dance with me and I'll hold her in my arms. But there are no any red rose in my garden, so I will sit alone. She won't dance with me and my heart will break."
Yes he is a true lover, like the lover in my songs, said the nightingale." love is happiness to me; however it is a pain to him. Love is a wonderful thing which gold and jewels can never buy it."
All the nature asked, why is he crying?
He is crying for a red rose, said the bird." For a red rose!" he is crying the nature told and they laughed. But Nightingale understood. She opened her brown wings and flew up into the air; she passed across the garden like a shadow.
Nightingale asked tree to give her a red rose. But she couldn't find and red rose. After so much of searching she came at the last tree and the tree told" There is a way, but I won't tell you about it."
Tell me the way please said the nightingale, I am not afraid of any difficulties that will come on my way. If you want a red Rose then you must build it out of music by moon light, said the tree. The redness must come from your hearts blood. The thorn must cut open your heart and your life blood must run into me and become mine. Wealth is a great price to pay for a red rose," said a Nightingale. I enjoy life. I love sitting in a green tree and watching a golden sun setting down. I love smelling the flowers. But love is better than life and the heart of a man is more important than a heart of a bird." she passed over the garden where the young boy was still lying in the grass. The tears were not yet dry in his eyes. Be happy said the Nightingale. You'll have your red rose. I'll build it out of music by moonlight and I'll give my heart blood for its redness. However you must be a true lover because love is the wisest and strongest thing. Boy didn't understood what was bird saying, at last he understood and said, sing me one last song. I’ll be sad and alone when you'll go."
Then she flew away passed to moon which was shining in the sky, the Nightingale flew to the rose tree. She pressed herself to the thorn. She sang all night and the cold moon listened. Although the whole night, she sang and the thorn went deeper and deeper and the life blood ran out of her. First she sang about the birth of a love in the heart of a boy and a girl and a wonderful rose grew on the highest part of a rose tree. At first it 
was white as white as a cloud on river, as silver as the wing of its early morning. The rose tree cried to the Nightingale," Press closer to the thorn little, Nightingale. The rose must be red before daylight so the nightingale pressed closer against the thorn. The thorn touched her heart and went deeper. As the pain became worse, her song became wilder. 
The rose became deep red as red as a jewel. But nightingale’s voice became weaker and weaker. Her little wings stopped moving, her eyes lost their brightness.
She sang a last wonderful song. The moon heard it and waited in the sky. The red rose heard it and opened wide to the cold moving air. Look, cried the rose tree. The rose is ready now: But the Nightingale didn't answer, because she was lying dead in the long grass with the thorn in her heart.
Next morning boy woke up and went to open his window, he saw dark red rose. He went and took it and put it on his hat and ran to the doctor's house with the rose in his hand. The doctor was the boy's teacher and the boy loved the doctor's daughter. She was sitting at the door and her little dog was lying at her feet. You wanted me to bring a red rose said a boy. Here is the reddest rose in the world. You can wear it tonight next to your heart. Then we can dance together. And you will get to know how much I love you."
I am sorry," Said the girl." It will not go with the color of my dress and the officer has sent me some real jewels. Everyone knows that jewels cost more than a rose. Thank you very much!" said the boy angrily. You are very kind. He threw the rose in front of her feet."
"You can't speak to me like that, said the girl. Who are you? Only the boy!" she got up from the chair and went into the house.
Love is a very silly thing!" said the boy and he walked away." It tells us things which are not going to happen, we believe thing which are not true. It is useless. In the difficult time, we must learn useful thing. I shall go back to my studies."
So he returned to his room, took out big old books and began to read. I request you all my friend don't fall in love never ever, that also when you are just a student.

Moral: - This isn't an age to love so we have no freedom to take decision by ourselves

regarding what is good or bad for us.

Name- Sana Banu
Class- Seven
School- Arunodaya English higher Secondary School, Dallu
( The writer is my cousin sister)