Let’s respect the dreams of others.

Moin Uddin

Kathmandu

We are dreamers and we dream a lot. We aspire a lot. We want to achieve so many wonderful things in life which we haven’t just because we don’t have it. Like being a teacher, writer, musician, radio jockey, master of ceremony, video editor, camera person, photographer, doctor, sports person, actor, politician, religious preacher, chef, art collectors and many more.

It’s not that you don’t have a stamina to achieve all those, yes you have it, you try for it, you have a wonderful concern for it, you love it, but there is other thing called what life exactly wants to give it to you. You can’t get everything that you want. I’ll explain it to you by an example. When we were a kid, we wanted so many chocolates and ice-creams also our desire for toys were high that we fought with our parents and didn’t ate lunch and dinner most of the time. We were angry with them and they would just smile but would not give our demanded stuffs to us. They took so much of care and were conscious of our behaviors’ and mischievous acts. We didn’t knew then, but as we grew slowly and got to know about life also our understanding level grew, now looking all those years back we realize that yes our parents were right. Our elders’ sayings were right and we were wrong.

Similar is the case with our desires. We want something and life gives us other thing. We feel like, fate has some other beautiful plans for us. But at-least trying for the passion that you have is a courageous thing. I’ve tried so many things in my life, though getting them was not so easy, and achieving them was not so appealing. Why? Because the thing which we aspire and want to get them becomes difficult and the people who have the power shows their laziness to give it to us and seeing these behavior of theirs becomes a depressing thing for us. I’ll explain it you by another example. When you are thirsty, you want water, there’ll be people holding the water bottle, you ask them and they show you hope, you begin to fell thirsty and wait for that hope to offer you a drink, again you ask for it and they again show you other hope and this keeps on continuing and there comes a time when consciously unconsciously your body will be able to adjust without a water and then the person holding the water bottle comes to give it to you and you just feel angry seeing them; what’s the use of the water when the thirst has all ended?

Maybe life wants to give us more than a water, maybe a juice, but at-least those in power should do their best in letting people achieve what they need it.

In conclusion, give them when they ask for it, it’ll create a value and will help you in a long run and providing them when the charm has lost will not save you from being hated.

Let’s respect the dreams of others and also “you”, be ready to accept the life proposals, and don’t just get attached to the dreams that you see it, be flexible and receive what life offers in front of you.

Moin Uddin interviews Kamal Gautam, CEO of Infrastructure Development Bank

This article was first published in the newspaper "The Himalayan Times" supplement paper Perspective  on 22 March 2015, Sunday.

You can also read this article following this link
http://epaper.thehimalayantimes.com/Details.aspx?id=1924&boxid=59536780&dat=03/22/2015

Living in the same hope… (A short story)

Moin Uddin

She wondered many times why do relationships break and question’s how does there exits some kind of beautiful hope which triggers down the thin line of relationship to strengthen further?

She pondered, we try so hard from our side to make the relationships stronger however due to intended or unintended behavior of the person paves the way to depart from one another’s life despite we meet often times in any other way of life, but instead of creating some kind of nostalgic feeling it heats the temple which make the scenario worse and eventually upon being and seeing them continuously in some occasions the fate turns into some horrible classical events. 

This happens and we are not exception. 

We as a human being love and value the person until and unless they don’t cross the line set by our viewings. And we hate them when they cross the borders. Anyhow we might accept or reject the universal item that we live by the notion which sets our thoughts. We want to be loved, cared and our voice to be heard, but when without logic the other person who forces their concerns makes life tougher for both the parties. 


One, she makes the thing worse by demeaning our perception and the other, she creates one hater and discards herself from all the love and attention and support that s/he used to get when s/he didn’t counter attacked the views laid.

She has a nice story to tell, are you free from all other tasks to know it?

Ok, thank you so much. Here we go…

She had a good friend. He was introvert but was talented in many activities. He was silent but was loud in his ambition. People thought he won’t achieve anything in life and even his parents thought his life will be tougher and he’ll not get along with the people. The last line said by his parents was true. He’ll not get along with the people; yes he never got tuned with the people as they belittled him. The reason was he was shy, he didn’t talked much, nor he approached others to be a friend nor others who came to be his friend were being able to be friends with him. He tried his best to be friends but his shy nature and the other reason was, he was poor, which made him feel awkward to go outings with them, mostly to the tea shop and sometimes to other venues to have fun. He wanted to go but the fear of paying the money would haunt him. At the meantime only his pocket money was Rs 10 a day which he would save a half and with the other Rs five he bought the cigarettes, that also a cheap one which fulfilled his thirst twice, one in the morning and the other in the evening when he returned home.

He wanted to be a body builder. He was good at karate and even he got selected for a street drama. He performed well. The actor approached him to work with them, he happily said yes .The next day the same actor got surrounded with other crew to perform, he waited for seven hours but it was not easy to meet him. The crowds were large and the actor was escorted into a car. Her friend thought the chances are slim to meet him and returned home. 

The next day he went again, some people were talking sitting in a tea shop that the actor who performed so nice died while performing a dangerous stunt. The newspaper was placed on the tea table. He read the news that the Drama Actor ‘Mathema Sankhar’ died yesterday while performing a stunt… He didn’t continue reading the news, he stood up, sighed, took a deep breathe, prayed for his departed soul and walked away. 

It has been three years and his dreams are still unfulfilled. One day she met him and offered for a tea, he immediately said, “Chiya khuwauney bhaye khuwa, ma sanga ta paisa chaina…” If you want to offer a tea then it’s okay, otherwise I don’t have any money… she said yes, I’ll pay, come on let’s go. She listened to his story and felt sorry for him. 

People are so bad and mean most of the time. And the people like her friend become a victim of those people who take advantage of their sincere dreams, they use it for their personal benefit and abandon showing the same hope again…and her friend in spite of having a caliber gets into the situation knowingly that they are using him, why this happened? Because he didn’t have any good option, he was just working as a general staff at the gym. His dream was to be a body builder and to win the medals competing in the competition but the ones whom he thought would help him provide a platform only showed a hope saying, ‘huncha huncha, ek dui din ma timi lai rakhihalcha ni…’ it’s ok, you will be hired within two to three days…and this saying, he heard since last three years, the ones who came after him got the admission and were even given an opportunity to compete, but they didn’t performed well. He cried so many times, prayed so many times, went to the office and asked of his employment process, but everyone would say the same thing ‘huncha huncha, ek dui din ma timi lai rakhihalcha ni…’

In the meantime he got to meet plentiful of people from a cobbler to a minister and powerful businessmen, but they behaved like butter when he was in front of them and they sliced a jam on him like the jam is put on bread. They showed only hope; the same hope that common people are forced to live with despite knowing it’s the fake hope. But life has to continue, and with again a same hope of getting a nice day someday, the bogus hope again lured…

He was frustrated. He wanted a job, anyhow. He didn’t see any hope that he’ll get a job so he started asking every possible people whether they could provide him any job. He was even willing to broom the floor or to be a waiter. Also he was ready to work as a guard in the office which could give him a paltry salary, from which he could buy the necessaries, also a cigarette.

The other day he went again to the gym and the same person who showed him the hope got the information from some other buttering staff. He arranged the meeting and called him for a final interview. Though, he had already appeared for an interview before he joined the gym. The same person had taken the interview but this time there was other person too. They asked my friend some questions and he answered them all in full vigor. After few questions he was said to go…

He felt he’ll get selected. Again he was shown a hope and till yet he is just working there as a general gym staff without a salary with a hope of being hired and someday to play internationally and win a medal and the newspaper people would come take an interview and publish his photo with a trophy and his family members would feel proud of him and would regret for saying that he was of no use…

But the reality is, he is still living in the same hope…

WHEN THE EDUCATED TURN UNEDUCATED!

09 Mar 2015
Moin Uddin

Since time immemorial we are raising our voice to eradicate the torture and unethical punishments that women faces in a day to day life.

Despite raising many similar voices by several other means be it on television, radio, newspaper or by organizing rally in the major places or sitting outside of the ministers home and offices also sometimes dismantling the property in rage we have by our hard efforts achieved nothing significant other than the sweet statement of the officials saying that they’ll investigate and bring the culprit to the public and shall punish him/her to the harshest.



And we the innocent ones believe that the officials will act to their best and we tend to cancel all the other programs to support the victim, now it has become a tradition when any such crime occurs. Doing so every time the government has become aware of our innocence and they slow in the process of acting immediately and the media who only seeks the hot news for the day just to publish it on their paper or to broadcast on their radio/television they even don’t give a heck to follow up the news the next day. This is just a simple reason for the criminals to get motivated to commit crime.

We the general people come into emotion easily and put on status when anyone immediately reports in the social networking sites. We vomit our thoughts without giving a thought of what we are trying to say. We people also have become fancied by the problems which are occurring.

We get hyper for a day and the next day we get lost in other problem that we face in our life. This is obvious; we have our own problems to sort out first. This is the mentality of most of the people. We never think that those problems are ours. We also can be victim anytime. This awareness doesn’t come to us when other face the problem. We have become a fancy journalist without getting a course of the ethics that the journalist need to follow, thanks to the burgeoning popularity of various social networking sites that we are familiar with.

Recently two girls suffered from an inhumane act. Unidentified boys threw acid on the face of those girls in the busiest and happening place of town .i.e. Basantapur where sadly there is a major police station situated on the heart of the place but the culprits got the courage to act making the life tougher for those girls, not only them there are other girls too who is insecure of walking on the roads freely.

There are other cases too such as, rape, molestation, threating people, financial problems, trying to show off, power struggle, status struggle, love, hate, short tempered, which are the major cases that we tend to neglect when identifying the crimes.

If we try to look deeply into many criminal cases the crime has occurred oftentimes mainly due to unsuccessful love stories, hate for the other people, ego problem between coworkers/ friends, unheard problems, not being able to withstand the torture which turns into the result of hating that people. And when people tends to hate there is obvious to occur the crime.

Even the boys are not safe in this matter. If a girl can be a victim then can’t a boy be the victim? This is a matter of concern for every individual.

The solutions that the government can play are by being faithful to their duties and responsibilities and to act immediately when they get the report of the crime. Transparent actions and process of trying to find the crime should be made available to the public which will help in building the trust of the general public towards the police.

INGO/NGO should also be able to raise the concerns and plight of the individual and should try to aware the people about the possibilities of the crime that could take place and should also try to say that why the crime could take place and also have to say the solutions to alleviate the crime.

Individuals have a major role to play. The crime occurs between individuals and as I’ve mentioned already above the possibilities of why the crime occurs. If anyone faces the crime then you should be able to stand by the victim until and unless they get the justice. Not just acting among the hype that the media creates and to cool down when the stories are unsaid by the media.

Media plays a huge role in any spheres of life. Most crime occurs due to the information transmitted by the media. Media by means is most powerful medium in shaping the mental and physical condition of the people. They can build the love and hate relationship between people and even cultivate the ego problem which could result into the major crime. Media should be loyal towards the job, they shouldn’t take anybody’s side and should flow the information accordingly. The main problem of our Nepali media is they only try to seek new information to raise their TRP. They hardly follow up the news and don’t bother to say what happened next as something other new problem arise and they gets lost in all those to cover the news. Last week the two girls’ news was overshadowed by the Turkish Airlines news. This is the situation of our media. Ever media houses run for the same news and the next day they never try to follow up.

What I think is crime can only be controlled when every concerned people comes and join hands to wipe it. They should also think that the crimes that took place today can happen the other day with them. Until and unless we don’t feel the pain of others as ours the crime will never come into control, no-matter how much we boast about eliminating the crime. This will keep on continuing.


Note : This article was first published in the blog of the the newspaper portal Republica. Below is the link you can click to read it and also do vote if you like the issues mentioned in the article.

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InternationalWomen’sDay2015 "We salute you - Dear Women" :)

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Today is March 8, 2015, all over the world people are celebrating #InternationalWomen’sDay with much vigor –“Empowering Women, Empowering Humanity: Picture it!” is the theme of this year’s International women’s day which is the inspiring call of UN Women’s Beijing +20 campaign.
Below are some of the articles that I had written in honor of women which were published in various newspapers.

I would like to dedicate this write up for them.

PEOPLESPEAK: Speak up‚ stand for your rights‚ help yourself...

I have many female relatives and girlfriends, they have enormous potential to change the world but due to inferiority feeling they are being bullied by their own thoughts. Blaming male is ridiculous.

There are women like Saguna Shah, Anuradha Koirala, Pushpa Basnet, Ravina Deshraj Shrestha, Archana Thapa, Malvika Subba who despite being a woman, work like other ladies — fulfilling all the responsibilities that women need to fulfil and yet they are carving a niche in their field, living their dreams.

I want to say that you all have the potential, just use it and look up to the above mentioned female figures and even to your aunts, teachers, friends, sisters — learn from them.

It’s true that success will not come so easily, struggle is needed to achieve the dream, so never give up on dreams.

Women of today are stronger and most live a free life. I want to tell them that just follow your dreams but be careful.

— Moin Uddin, Ghattekulo, Kathmandu -

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Looking forward

I am always and more and more fascinated by the success of women and I truly do respect them and share their life stories with others to motivate other similar ladies who have potential but have not gone through it. They are the ones who are the change makers. However, I feel, they lack confidence within themselves. I have met women who have accomplished huge success, while here are others sitting just idle cursing their own fate because of the lack of confidence. Recently, we marked the 102nd women’s day and there was concern regarding the slow pace of empowerment of women. However, what if the women don’t start their career and only think life to be very useless or women are born to suffer? The women themselves have to stand up and challenge the world. They must be motivated from within themselves.
Raising voices within the confines of seminar halls will not accomplish the task at hand. It is a complex world where the men and women have to work together for the betterment of the society.
Moin Uddin, Ghattekulo, Kathmandu
http://www.thehimalayantimes.com/mobile/fullNews.php?headline=LETTERS&NewsID=323723#.VPuuQfmUcs0

Women Power

MOIN UDDIN

I’m fascinated by the success of women and I truly respect them. I even share their life stories to motivate women who have the potentials, but haven’t dared to explore them.

In fact, women are the actual change makers. However, many of them lack self-confidence. I’ve met a lot of women in my life, and while some have accomplished huge success, many, due to low self-esteem and lack of confidence, are just sitting idle, cursing their own fate.

There are exemplary women achievers from different walks of life, and many people draw inspiration from them. Take for example, Melba Devi Gurung who is the first woman to record songs in India in 1928 and also the first Nepali woman to ever have a song recorded. Likewise, Bindeshwari Shah became the first Nepali female ambassador to India during 1989-90. Dwarika Devi Thakurani was appointed as the first female minister of Nepal in 1960. Rakshya Rana, at the age of 24, went on to become the first Nepali woman pilot.

Today, when things are supposed to have significantly improved, girls are still lagging far behind, and despite many individuals and organizations putting in their best efforts, girls continue to fall prey to discrimination and various other forms of violence. Time and again newspaper headlines scream cases of rape, molestation, trafficking, murder, domestic violence, etc. There are still cases of child marriage; young women are still burnt alive by their husbands and in-laws for not being able to bring the required dowry; wives are expected to live under their husbands and in-laws by default, and parents haven’t stopped discriminating against their own daughters.

Yes, there are lots of government, non-government and international organizations working in the field of women empowerment, but has it really made any difference?

What if, despite all the empowerment programs, women still consider themselves the ‘weaker sex’ and can’t garner the confidence to go ahead and achieve something in life? What if she believes that being born as a girl is a curse in itself?

Most of these thoughts and beliefs develop from years and years of gender policing that starts right at the childhood. Parents and guardians, knowingly or unknowingly, are responsible for this.

Therefore, in order to empower girls, the first step to take is to stop gender policing, right away. Also, steps should be taken to counsel women and make them believe that they are equal to men; that they have the power in them to achieve as much success (if not more) as their male counterparts.
Only raising voices in the auditorium or signing drafts and plans on women empowerment won’t help women start their life with courage and determination. The society, by working hand in hand, should be able to help women unleash their potentials and realize the strength inherent in them.
Women should be able to possess a burning desire in them to progress in a society in which gender doesn’t determine success.

The main problem I’ve seen in women is the hesitation: “Will I be able to do it?” “Will people appreciate my work?”

If they believe in the power of their dreams and for once trust that they can thrive outside their comfort zone, too, I’m sure there will be many others to lend their helping hands. All women need today is self-confidence and belief that they are no less.
All power to you, Dear Women!

The writer is a postgraduate student of Business Studies at Shankar Dev Campus in Putali Sadak, Kathmandu.

    Published on 2014-10-11 10:37:27

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Sincerely yours,
Moin Uddin
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To whom her dream may concern…

Moin Uddin

I haven’t wrote anything since a long time, now I feel free to write about her, she was all handcuffed and was put in bars, it’s not an object that one can see all those by naked mind, one feels, the pains coming from the wounds that created in the process of seeing dreams, it’s not ordinary that anyone can feel the pain of others, some people can see all those, the super conventional people can feel the pains by seeing into the condition those who see them with the pity eyes, it’s not that she is weak, it’s not that she don’t have power, it’s not that she has cheated, it’s also not that she has done any serious crime, yes she did a crime of seeing dreams, dreams that were not seen by her family members, not even her close friends, not even the neighbors, not even a society and religious people whom she has been living and growing with.

The tragedy is no-one knows the true power of her work and the command her dream has , even she never boasts about it, no marketing, no relations with the people, now she herself have set the boundary in which she is  living in, she feels weak, she doesn’t have any one to give at-least a look into her dreams and to her potentials, these days she doesn’t want anyone to come and see her, she is getting pathetic, she’s unhealthy, she’s sad, even the rays of hope has come dusky, and twilight is about to take the full latitude...

She was a happy girl, her moods were always funny, she would even tease me and I would fell ire, I got up and would chase her, she would run towards her home and closed the door– bang, I would yell and she waved her tongue from the verandah and would laugh, one day due to high temper I threw my slipper at her verandah, and that day I had to return home with only a slipper on my one leg.

Times passed and so do her and of course me, I grew taller, she grew till my shoulder, her enthusiasm, her energy, her loud and clear voice faded slowly and I couldn’t notice the changes over those moments.

She even doesn’t sing these days, nor does she ask me of how many books I read in a week, she also even doesn’t hit me on my head when I say something jerky. She keeps quite, she feels lost, and seeing her I get lost in all those memories when we lived together.

Her mischievous smile has lost, and I am searching to get it back and give her, her assets. I feel bore seeing her bored.

Those dreams she saw then made me feel like she would surely achieve great things in her life. Now the lucrative then dreams are making her bulky. The smiley dreams she would share with putting jam and butter and would present me, I would get greedy. Then I didn’t realize that seeing dreams were easy but fulfilling them was far more difficult than one can assume.

Please forgive me, for not being able to make your dreams come true, I still remember when you said many romantic things regarding how you would want your life to be like. Never had we both realized that we were living in a society and in a cultural shaft. Even though, crossing those shafts, there would arise more problems then we had anticipated.

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